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List of kinks: 120 kinks and fetishes A–Z with meanings

This list of kinks explains 120 interests and terms in plain language. Start with a theme or use the A–Z to find a definition. Read what kink means.

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Key points

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Kinks are adult interests in sensations, roles, materials or fantasies beyond someone’s idea of conventional sex. This A–Z links 120 glossary terms, including communication and community vocabulary. A label does not establish consent, safety or a diagnosis. Ask what it means to the person. Read what kink means before choosing a label.

For the distinctions between fantasy, roles and personal decisions, read about feederism.

For the meaning and separate hygiene cautions, read about watersports kink.

For a focused definition that separates interest from permission, see hand fetish.

Good places to start

Consider praise, a chosen outfit, sharing music, a fictional character, a small act of service, a private conversation or comfortable sensory preferences. Each is an optional conversation topic, not a required activity. Read beginner ideas and boundaries.

Kinks by theme

Power and roles

Interests in authority and care can mean different things to different adults. Discuss the role before assuming what it includes. See doms and subs.

Sensation and impact

A sensory preference is not a safety rating. Begin with meanings and limits, and distinguish a wanted sensation from injury. See pain kink and consent.

Bondage and restraint

Restraint interests concern restricted movement or its imagery. Practical risk, communication and release need separate attention. See rope safety.

Roleplay and dress

A fictional character or chosen outfit can be an interest in itself. Ask what belongs to the fiction and how to step out of it. See adult roleplay.

Bodies, materials and objects

Some interests focus on appearance, texture, a body part or an object. Interest never gives permission to touch a person or their belongings. See this list of meanings.

Watching, showing and sharing

Privacy and the involvement of other people are separate choices. Agreement to an activity does not cover recording or sharing it. See image privacy.

Taboo and edge themes

A difficult fantasy can remain imaginary. Themes involving risk or apparent resistance need care, and a label cannot remove legal or physical limits. See CNC and real consent.

For the Japanese term and its overlap with shibari, see kinbaku.

A–Z list

A

Aftercare — Planned support or communication after a consensual kink or BDSM scene, used to help participants move out of roles, attend to comfort and make sense of the experience.

Armpit interest — A focused adult attraction to armpits that may involve appearance, scent, hair, clothing, movement or consensual intimacy.

B

Balloon fetish — An adult interest in balloons that may centre on colour, shape, surface, movement, sound, inflation imagery, fragility or the anticipation of a pop.

BDSM — An umbrella term for consensual adult practices involving restraint, rules, power exchange, intense sensation or role-based experiences.

Belly and abdominal interest — A focused adult attraction to the abdomen, potentially involving shape, softness, movement, fullness, clothing, sound or consensual touch.

Blindfold play — The consensual reduction or removal of sight using a blindfold to alter anticipation, attention, sensory balance or role experience.

Body worship — Focused, consensual admiration or ritual attention directed toward an adult partner's body or chosen feature, potentially expressing praise, devotion, service or power exchange.

Bodyweight kink — An ambiguous phrase for adult interests in body size, physique, weight, pressure or related fantasy; ask which meaning is intended.

Bondage — The consensual use or representation of restraint and restricted movement between adults for aesthetic, psychological, sensory or role-based meaning.

Boot worship — Consensual ritual or focused attention to boots as objects, symbols of authority, materials, fashion or items worn by an adult partner.

Brat and brat-tamer dynamic — A consensual adult power dynamic in which negotiated cheekiness, provocation, testing or playful resistance invites an agreed response from a brat-tamer or other partner.

Breast interest — A focused adult attraction to breasts or chest tissue, including appearance, movement, clothing, touch or symbolic associations.

C

Caning — An impact-play term for the use or fantasy of a cane-like implement.

Chastity play — A consensual dynamic in which access to sexual touch or release is symbolically or practically restricted for an agreed period.

Collaring — The consensual use or exchange of a collar as clothing, scene equipment or a symbol of role, commitment, belonging, protection, protocol or relationship meaning.

Consensual degradation — Negotiated psychological play using lowered status, language or ritual to create intensity.

Consensual exhibitionistic play — A staged adult scenario in which agreed visibility or display creates excitement.

Consensual humiliation — A negotiated form of psychological play in which embarrassment, teasing or status difference is used for intensity.

Consensual non-consent fantasy — An adult fantasy of apparent loss of control in which real refusal always stops everything and consent stays withdrawable.

Consensual objectification — Role-play in which a person is temporarily treated as a symbolic object, display or function under agreed conditions.

Consensual voyeuristic play — A staged adult scenario in which being watched, or watching, is agreed by everyone involved.

Consent negotiation — An explicit and continuing process through which adults agree the scope of a kink or BDSM interaction, including roles, boundaries, communication, relevant risks and conditions that could affect capacity.

Cuckolding and hotwifing — Consensual adult fantasies or arrangements in which a partner's erotic attention to another adult carries meaning for the relationship.

Cuffs and handcuffs — Restraint devices that limit movement and require separate attention to fit, release, circulation and consent.

D

Discipline — A negotiated structure of rules, expectations, feedback and consequences used by consenting adults within a kink or power-exchange dynamic.

Dollification — Adult role-play or transformation fantasy centred on becoming doll-like through styling, posing, stillness, scripted behaviour or consensual objectification.

Dominance and submission — A consensual adult scene, relationship structure or identity in which authority is deliberately distributed unequally within negotiated limits.

Drop — An informal umbrella for tiredness, low mood, irritability, disconnection or vulnerability that some people report after an intense scene or event.

Dungeon — A community term for a space equipped or designated for BDSM activity, which may be a permanent venue, temporary event area or private room rather than a literal underground place.

Dungeon monitor — An event-appointed role that observes a designated play area, explains or enforces house rules and responds to visible concerns within the monitor's training and authority.

E

Erotic cosplay — Adult fantasy or role-play using costumes inspired by fictional characters, genres or original personas.

Erotic hypnosis — An adult interest in agreed focused attention and imaginative suggestion, without removing choice or creating mind control.

F

Fear play — A consensual adult fantasy or role-play theme in which agreed anticipation, uncertainty or simulated fear is meaningful.

Feederism — A consensual adult interest involving feeding, being fed, indulgence, fullness, weight-change fantasy or feeder-and-feedee roles, with wide variation in goals and conduct.

Fetish — A sustained erotic or intimate focus on a particular object, material, body feature or highly specific context.

Financial domination — A power-exchange interest in which money, gifts or financial control carry symbolic or erotic meaning.

Findom tributes and financial submission — Terms used in some financial-domination communities for agreed payments, spending or money-themed roles between adults.

Flogging — An impact-play term usually referring to a multi-strand implement.

Food play — An agreed adult sensory interest in food, taste, scent or mess.

Foot fetish — A pronounced erotic focus on feet, their appearance, movement, scent, touch or associated footwear.

Foot worship — A consensual adult focus on feet as objects of attention, admiration, service, ritual or erotic interest.

Footwear and boot fetish — An attraction to shoes or boots, sometimes focused on a specific shape, material, heel, wear pattern or cultural association.

Furry interest — An interest in a fandom of fictional animal-like characters and personas; the wider fandom is not inherently sexual.

G

Gender play — Consensual adult exploration of gendered clothing, language, roles, mannerisms or presentation within fantasy, performance or power exchange.

Glove fetish — An attraction to gloves as objects, materials or symbols of formality, cleanliness, authority or concealment.

H

Hair fetish — An erotic focus on hair, which can include its texture, style, colour, scent, cutting or grooming.

Hand fetish — A focused adult interest in hands, fingers, nails, gestures or movement.

Hand worship — A consensual adult focus on hands as objects of attention, admiration, service, aesthetic interest or erotic meaning.

Hard and soft limits — Firm boundaries and conditional possibilities discussed before an activity; neither creates an obligation to agree.

Hosiery fetish — A focus on stockings, tights, socks or related garments.

House rules — Venue- or organiser-specific requirements governing entry, conduct, privacy, equipment, activities, substances, consent, reporting and removal from an event or space.

I

Ice and cold-temperature play — A sensory interest in cold objects, temperature contrast or the anticipation of cold.

Impact play — A broad term for consensual striking used to create sound, rhythm, sensation or power exchange.

Inflation fantasy — A transformation fantasy involving imagined expansion of a body, body part, garment or character, usually explored through art, fiction, costume or visual effects.

K

Kink — Kink is a consensual adult interest, fantasy or practice considered unconventional in its context.

Kitten play — Adult pet play using a cat-like persona, often involving affection, independence, playfulness, grooming symbolism, movement or an owner-and-pet power dynamic.

L

Latex and rubber fetish — An attraction to the appearance, feel, scent, sound or ritual of wearing latex or rubber.

Leash play — An adult interest in a lead as a symbol of guidance, pet play or ritual; it is not a safety rating.

Leather fetish — An attraction to leather’s visual, tactile or olfactory qualities, or to the identities and subcultures associated with leather clothing.

Lingerie fetish — An attraction to intimate apparel as an object, aesthetic or part of dressing and role expression.

M

Marking kink — A consensual adult interest in temporary visible marks, symbols or traces on the body or clothing, which may be valued for aesthetics, memory, ritual or negotiated power.

Master/slave dynamic — A consensual adult power-exchange structure using Master, Mistress or slave language and a deliberately pronounced authority distinction whose actual scope is negotiated by the participants.

Messy play — A sensory interest in contact with visibly wet, soft or messy materials, often valued for texture, spectacle or a playful loss of neatness.

Munch — An informal social gathering associated with kink communities, usually held in an ordinary public venue and focused on conversation rather than organised play.

Muscle interest — Attraction to muscular development, strength, flexing, movement or symbolic meanings associated with power and physique, sometimes expressed through admiration or worship.

N

Navel fetish — A focused adult attraction to the navel or surrounding abdomen, including appearance, shape, movement, clothing, symbolism or consensual touch.

Newcomer frenzy — Community shorthand for early enthusiasm that can move faster than someone’s information, support or judgement.

O

Objectophilia — A pattern of strong romantic, emotional or sexual attraction directed towards particular inanimate objects.

Orgasm control — An adult interest in agreed anticipation or timing around orgasm, with limits and stopping kept under discussion.

P

Paddles, crops and impact implements — A comparison term for different impact-play objects whose materials, construction and meaning vary.

Partialism — A pronounced focus on a particular non-genital body part or feature.

Pegging — A consensual adult practice using a wearable harness and attachment, with specific communication and sexual-health considerations.

Pet play — Adult role-play built around stylised animal identities or handler-and-pet dynamics.

Play — Community shorthand for consensual adult kink, role-based or sensory activity.

Play party — A private or organised adults-only event where consensual kink activity may occur under participant negotiation and venue-specific rules.

Pony play — Adult pet-play fantasy involving a stylised horse-like persona, costume or negotiated handler role.

Power bottom — An informal, context-dependent label for a bottom who is notably active, directive, assertive or influential in shaping the pace and content of an interaction.

Praise kink — An interest in affirmation, approval or being told one has performed well, often within a negotiated role or intimacy dynamic.

Pressure and bodyweight play — A broad adult umbrella for consensual interest in weight, pressure, pinning or physical presence.

Primal play — A loosely defined adult style that emphasises instinct-like expression, movement, sound or pursuit within consent.

Protocol — An agreed pattern of behaviour, communication, presentation or ritual used by consenting adults to express a kink or power-exchange role.

Pup play — A form of adult pet play in which a participant adopts a stylised puppy or dog-like persona, often with emphasis on playfulness, pack community, headspace or handler dynamics.

PVC and wetlook fetish — An attraction to glossy synthetic garments and their sheen, texture or fitted appearance.

R

Rigger and rope bottom — Activity-role terms for the person applying or directing rope and the person receiving it; neither role automatically establishes dominance, submission, expertise or relationship status.

Robot and machine role-play — Adult fantasy or role-play involving programmed behaviour, mechanical movement, remote commands, artificial identity or imagined transformation into a robot or machine.

Role-play — The consensual adoption of fictional roles, settings or scripts to explore identity, authority, vulnerability or fantasy.

Rope bondage — A form of bondage using rope for restraint, connection, visual composition or ritual.

S

Sadism and masochism — In consensual adult kink, sadism and masochism describe interests in creating or receiving agreed physical sensation, discomfort or psychological intensity.

Safeword — A pre-agreed word, phrase or non-verbal signal used during consensual adult activity to communicate a need to pause, change or stop—especially where ordinary language might be ambiguous within role-play.

Scene — A community word with two common uses: a bounded period of negotiated kink activity, or the wider social world of events, groups and people associated with kink.

Scent and odour fetish — An erotic focus on particular body, material, garment or environmental scents.

Sensation play — Exploration of contrasting tactile experiences such as softness, pressure, vibration or texture.

Sensory deprivation — The consensual reduction of one or more senses—often sight or sound—to alter attention, anticipation or dependence on communication.

Service — A consensual adult dynamic in which practical care, assistance, attention or completed tasks carry relational, symbolic or erotic meaning.

Service top — An informal label for a top who performs negotiated actions primarily to provide an experience shaped around the receiving participant's interests, without necessarily taking a dominant role.

Sex-positive — An approach to sexual wellbeing that values accurate information, autonomy, consent, pleasure, respect and freedom from coercion, discrimination and violence.

Size fantasy — Adult fantasy focused on imagined differences in body size, scale or power.

Size-difference and giantess fantasy — An adult fantasy or aesthetic interest in imagined size differences and perspective.

Slime, mud and non-food messy play — A subset of messy play involving non-food wet, soft or coating materials such as slime or mud.

Sound and audio play — Consensual use of voices, music, instructions, rhythm, repeated sounds, spatial audio or controlled quiet to shape attention, atmosphere, sensation or role.

Spanking — An adult impact-play interest that can carry sensory, playful or role-based meaning.

Spreader bars and positional restraint — Terms for restraint equipment or arrangements that alter spacing, posture or movement.

SSC, RACK and the 4Cs — Community mnemonics used to prompt discussion about consent, risk, communication and care.

Statue and mannequin interest — An attraction to stillness, display or mannequin-like styling, including agreed presentation by an adult partner.

Subspace and top space — Informal descriptions for changes in attention, emotion, self-awareness, time perception or absorption that some adults report during intense consensual BDSM experiences.

Supernatural fantasy — Adult fantasy involving fictional ghosts, monsters, non-human beings or supernatural encounters, usually explored through imagination, fiction, art, costume or consensual role-play.

Switch — A person who takes more than one BDSM role, such as dominant and submissive or top and bottom, with role choice varying by activity, partner, setting or time.

T

Technosexual interest — A broad label for erotic or romantic interest shaped by technology, such as robots, artificial agents, virtual bodies or technologically mediated intimacy.

Temperature play — The controlled use of warm or cool sensations for contrast and attention.

Tickling fetish — An erotic or intensely pleasurable focus on giving, receiving or anticipating tickling.

Top and bottom — Activity-role terms commonly describing who gives, performs or directs an agreed action and who receives or experiences it; they do not automatically establish authority or identity.

Total power exchange — A consensual adult relationship model aspiring to broad delegated authority across multiple areas of life, while remaining limited by law, capacity, continuing personhood and the ability to leave.

Transformation fantasy — Fantasy centred on changing body, identity, species, material, scale or social role.

V

Vanilla — Informal, context-dependent shorthand for sexual or relationship interests perceived as conventional or not kink-focused.

Vehicle and machinery fetish — An attraction to vehicles or machinery that may centre on design, sound, power, movement, materials, ownership ritual or anthropomorphic meaning.

W

Water-based play — An umbrella for consensual adult sensory, aesthetic or ritual interests involving water, from rain imagery and bathing to wet clothing.

Watersports — An adult kink term for an interest involving urine, distinct from aquatic sport; health and consent need separate consideration.

Wax play — A form of temperature and sensation play involving melted wax.

Wet-clothing fetish — An attraction to clothing made wet, including its weight, cling, sheen, temperature, sound or transformation from an ordinary garment.

Wrestling and consensual pinning — An adult interest in wrestling-themed play, competitive movement or agreed pinning imagery.

How to use this list

Choose a letter and open the linked definition. Names overlap, and some people prefer no label. This is a selection, not an exhaustive alphabet or a ranking. Reading, fantasy, conversation and shared activity are different requests; an interest need never become an activity.

Ask about privacy, limits, communication, access needs and an easy way to decline. A short entry cannot replace a detailed guide or qualified health or legal advice. Start with terminology or body-part and object-focused interests.

The most common kinks

A Canadian Internet survey by Joyal, Cossette and Lapierre found submission and domination fantasies common among both men and women. Holvoet and colleagues’ Belgian survey separately measured fantasies, activities and BDSM identification. These are different measures; neither establishes a British popularity league table. The normality guide discusses the research and its limits.

Popularity cannot establish safety or consent. Follow your interests rather than a ranking; the BDSM introduction explains overlapping categories.

Restraint, roles and focused interests

Bondage may mean restraint imagery, clothing or a physical activity. An object does not establish a wish to be restrained. Practical restraint needs separate communication and release planning; use the restraint guide for non-instructional context.

Dominance and submission concerns negotiated authority, briefly or within an ongoing relationship. Directing an activity need not confer broader authority. Agree when roles begin, what remains outside them and how to end them. The roles guide distinguishes dominant, submissive, top, bottom and switch without assigning gender or personality.

A fetish may focus on an object, material, feature or situation, privately or with someone else. Interest in clothing never grants permission to touch, photograph or comment on its wearer. The comparison guide separates everyday and clinical language; an interest alone is not a diagnosis.

Sensation and fictional roles

Impact interests may concern sound, a role or fantasy. Discuss marks, pain, privacy and stopping separately; a familiar name is not a safety rating. Spanking is a specific impact term. This list gives no equipment, body-area, force or technique instructions.

Role-play uses an agreed fictional frame between adults. A story does not imply agreement to dialogue, costume, an audience or photographs. Agree ordinary out-of-character stopping words; real boundaries continue throughout. Do not involve unconsenting bystanders. The fantasy guide separates imagination from a request.

Sensation play can concern texture, temperature or anticipation without implying intensity. A physical activity requires its own health and legal assessment. Read sensation planning before treating a list as practical guidance.

Find the part that appeals

Ask which material, role, story, sound, visual theme, closeness or change of pace appeals. Liking a role need not mean wanting a sensation; enjoying a texture need not imply a community identity. Scope’s intimacy guidance encourages asking about likes, needs and access. Ask privately where declining feels comfortable.

Relate distinguishes open discussion from pressure that makes a person fear saying no. If fear is present, prioritise safety. Curiosity creates no obligation to explore.

Start with a useful definition

Kink is a broad everyday word for interests or practices outside a person's sense of conventional sex; fetish is often used for a particular object, material or focus; BDSM is an umbrella for some negotiated power, sensation and restraint interests. These words overlap, but none is a complete description of what a specific person wants. Ask whether someone is naming a fantasy, an identity, an activity or a conversation. Our kink and fetish entries provide short starting definitions.

A term in a profile, guide or conversation can save time between people who already share a meaning. It can also conceal differences. Two people saying “role-play” might mean costumes and dialogue, while only one imagines touch. A person can enjoy a material without wanting an encounter, or identify with a community without taking part in a named practice. Before making a plan, ask what the word includes for this person and what it excludes.

Relate's discussion of discovering what turns you on treats interests as something to explore and communicate, not a checklist of obligations. An interest can stay private or imaginary. The useful question is not “Which label proves this is normal?” but “What do I mean by it, and what choice would I like to discuss?” The object-focused interests guide develops that distinction with concrete examples.

Separate labels from agreements

Words such as dominant, submissive, switch or service can describe a person's preferred role, a scene arrangement or part of an identity. A role label does not grant authority outside what the adults agreed. Specify actions, limits, duration, communication and how the agreement ends. Someone may use the same label in different ways with different partners. The consent negotiation entry turns shorthand into a question about an actual choice.

Community terms can also describe ways to check in and follow up, such as a safeword or aftercare. Knowing the term is not enough: check whether the signal is usable in the setting and what each person wants afterward. An event's house rules may add requirements, but a glossary term or venue label does not replace personal consent. Our power exchange guide explains how to keep role language inside an agreed scope.

If a term feels loaded, ask which words the person prefers. “Fetish” may be comfortable for one person and too clinical or reductive for another. Do not relabel a partner against their wishes to make a conversation sound familiar. A useful explanation states the phenomenon in ordinary language first and offers a technical or community word second. This is especially important if someone is asking for help rather than joining a community.

Keep clinical language precise

A consensual interest is not automatically a mental-health condition. “Paraphilia” and “paraphilic disorder” are clinical terms with different meanings; distress, impairment, risk and non-consent cannot be inferred from a single preference. Our clinical terminology guide gives the careful distinction. Avoid diagnosing another person from a label, a costume or one account of a fantasy.

COSRT's account of psychosexual therapy concerns gives examples of issues someone may choose to discuss, including distress and relationship difficulties. Therapy is not an automatic response to a non-mainstream interest. If a person is distressed, ask what specifically troubles them: secrecy, pressure, conflict, unwanted thoughts, physical pain or something else. The answer determines what kind of support may be useful.

Pink Therapy describes affirmative therapeutic support across gender, sexuality and relationship diversity. An affirmative approach can make space for a person's own words while still addressing harm or pressure directly. A glossary cannot determine whether an individual meets a diagnostic threshold. Nor does the existence of a clinical term make an unsafe or non-consensual action acceptable. These are separate questions requiring appropriate professional assessment.

Read a term in context

Before acting on a word, ask four things: what does it mean here, who is involved, what is wanted, and what is off limits? A person saying “I have a fantasy” may be asking to be heard, not asking to enact it. A person asking “What is BDSM?” may want a definition, not an invitation. Repeat back the answer in plain language. If it sounds different to the other person, revise the wording before any activity is proposed.

Consider “impact play” as an example of the limit of an umbrella word. It does not specify body area, intensity, equipment, experience or a signal to stop. Likewise “messy play” does not specify whether food, water or other materials are involved. A definition is useful for finding a relevant guide; it is not a plan. Our messy play guide shows how to ask about materials and environment rather than relying on the label.

Online usage changes and local communities may choose different words. Ask a person or organiser how they use a term instead of correcting them with a single authoritative-sounding definition. When the difference changes a safety decision, spell out the concrete behaviour. This keeps the conversation understandable even if neither person adopts the same identity term.

Use words without making assumptions

A term can travel from a community discussion into a shopping description or a clinical appointment, changing meaning on the way. “Fetish clothing” on a retailer's page describes marketing, not what a wearer believes about themselves. “Power exchange” in a relationship may name a carefully bounded agreement rather than a general hierarchy. Ask for an example of the intended meaning, then check that the example does not silently include an unwanted action. This is more reliable than memorising an exhaustive list of labels.

Some terms carry histories of stigma or are used as insults. If a person objects, acknowledge it and switch to their preferred wording. If they are unsure of a label, they can describe an interest without choosing one. Language can help someone find information or peers, but it need not become a fixed identity. An adult may use a word for a period and later choose another as understanding changes. Respect that change rather than citing an old profile or conversation back to them.

When a guide links to a glossary, follow the definition and then return to the actual person and context. An entry on consent, for example, cannot tell you whether a particular request was understood or freely accepted. The practical follow-up is to ask about limits, check in during any agreed activity and stop when the answer changes. A vocabulary can support those actions; it does not perform them.

When to seek help with a term

If a word has become a source of argument, try a short description of the concrete interest and boundary without it. Relate's conversation toolkit offers prompts about expectations and comfort; it is possible to ask “Do you want to talk about this?” before proposing anything. If distress persists, a qualified therapist with relevant experience may help explore it; COSRT explains what to ask about therapy. Check current qualifications and fees directly.

If the issue is pressure, an ignored no or threatened disclosure, do not settle for a dispute about vocabulary. Seek private help and address the conduct. A useful term should clarify a choice, never obscure the fact that a person can decline. This guide defines words; it does not provide a clinical assessment or a licence to act.

UK help

For relationship pressure, see Relate. Galop supports LGBT+ adults facing abuse. For symptoms or injury, use medical help and an appropriate NHS service; immediate danger needs emergency services. A COSRT-listed professional can discuss persistent distress.

The cited CPS guidance concerns England and Wales and considers prior discussion, limits and continuing consent in its BDSM section. Do not transfer its legal test to Scotland or Northern Ireland. Use UK help for nation-specific support and qualified advice.

Further reading

Common questions

Are kink and BDSM identical?

No. BDSM names some interests under a broader umbrella, and people vary in how they use each word.

Does fetish mean a disorder?

No. Clinical assessment asks different questions from an everyday label.

Does a label imply consent?

No. Ask about the particular action and current willingness.

Can a fantasy stay a fantasy?

Yes. Naming it creates no duty to perform it.

What if a person dislikes a term?

Use their preferred wording and ask what experience they actually mean.

How many kinks are there?

There is no fixed complete number because people use overlapping and changing terms. This list offers 120 entries as a reading map, not a definitive classification.

What are the most common kinks?

A list cannot establish population rankings without suitable research. Start with the themes that interest you and avoid treating popularity as a reason to participate.

Is it normal to have a kink?

An interest alone does not establish that anything is wrong. Consent, distress, harm and how an interest affects life are more useful questions than whether a label sounds unusual.

About this page: sources, review and limits
Status
Published guide
Last reviewed
3 October 2026
Scope
UK adult education; specific law and health questions need separate advice

Community vocabulary is linked to the site's definitions; consent context follows current CPS, Relate and Scope guidance. This is not a catalogue of techniques.

AI-created editorial illustration; not documentary evidence.

How sources are checked
Primary and authoritative sourcesCPS: rape and sexual offences guidance (England and Wales, 2026) (opens in a new tab)Relate: I feel pressured into having sex (opens in a new tab)Scope: intimacy, disability and relationships (2025) (opens in a new tab)Galop: helplines (opens in a new tab)COSRT: professional register (opens in a new tab)Joyal, Cossette and Lapierre: adult fantasy survey (2015) (opens in a new tab)Holvoet et al.: Belgian BDSM fantasy, activity and identity survey (2017) (opens in a new tab)Relate: discover what turns you on (opens in a new tab)Relate: talking about sex with a new partner (opens in a new tab)COSRT: what issues can therapy help with? (opens in a new tab)COSRT: how will therapy work? (opens in a new tab)Pink Therapy: therapy (opens in a new tab)

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